I want to share with you a piece of advice to those of you that are in leadership. This is awesome if you own your own business, if you have a group of people under your supervision, if you pastor a church, or you may be on staff at a church. If you are in any type of leadership role, this piece of advice if for you.
You may not hear this from the best-selling book on leadership. That's not where I received this "golden nugget". I got this piece of advice from one of the best men that I have ever met, my DAD! Of course I might be biased.
I've known my Dad all of my life. No, really, it's true. Let me tell ya about him. He owned an automotive repair business for 25 years. He's a mechanic by trade. Before he opened his business, he worked at Alabama Power Company. He worked on the big bucket trucks.
My dad is also a Man of GOD! He's been a Christ-follower for close to 50 years. He's been a deacon, a treasure, a trustee, he's a Sunday School teacher, and when the Pastor is away, he has even preached on occasion. He knows his Bible very well. I've been known to encourage believers to read their Bible everyday. My dad is one of the reasons why I continue to do this. He is an example to me for which I am very grateful!
Anyway, back to the leadership advice. When I graduated from Baptist Bible College in 1995, my dad took me aside and gave me this nugget. You see, he has worked with a lot of different pastors over the years (at the same church) and he watched them. The mistakes they made and the things that they did right. He knew that I was going into ministry and he didn't want me to make some of the mistakes that he had seen others in ministry make, even though he had never been in ministry.
He said this: "Don't burn bridges with people". In leadership, there are times that you have to make a decision that will make someone upset. Everyone will not be happy all the time, but be careful about making someone upset for no reason. Once you "burn a bridge", it's very hard to rebuild that bridge.
So what kind of bonehead moves could a person in leadership make that would burn bridges with people?
Here are some examples:
1. Lying to cover your own hide. Just be honest and tell the truth.
2. Say your sorry. "Fess up" to your own mistakes. Fine, you made a mistake, say your sorry and move on.
3. Be a team player, not a dictator. Even if you are the leader, there may be others under you that just might have a better idea than you. Realize that you don't have all of the best ideas.
These are just a few examples, but remember this:
If you are the leader and you have these issues, you are "burning bridges". Turn around, there might be nobody following you!